A friend of mine, Mitch Mitchell, was talking about oversharing on his video, which got me to thinking. He mentions someone he knows on social media, who was going through a trying time in their marriage. She overshared and criticized her husband (watch the video for the details). This person then got back together with her husband, but never mentioned the drama ever again. Long story short, he has been uncomfortable ever since. Here’s the video:
Oversharing is Confusing
Now you might know someone like this. I certainly do. The person gets back together as though nothing ever happened and you’re left maybe wondering what happened. At the very least, it’s confusing. If you’re on social media and you overshare, where does that leave your audience? If you don’t explain what happened in the meantime, people are left high and dry. It’s different if you’re a marriage and family counselor using your own experiences as fodder (with everyone’s permission). But if you represent a business, your friends and potential clients can be both confused and upset.
Oversharing Can Be Dangerous
If you’re sharing details about something you’re going through like a divorce, where emotions run high, you could end up putting yourself or your family in danger. And if you discuss your own children, that could also put them in danger. For instance, some people talk about problems they’re having with day care, or specific times they pick up their kids. Do you really want to put your kids in danger? Or tell people when your house is empty? It’s easier and easier to see who’s going where, even without oversharing. But to hand someone information so easily could put your family and friends in danger.
Sharing Privately Might Be Better
If you’re in a personal dilemma, and let’s face it–everyone goes through big life changes sooner or later, why not share privately? Direct messages, text messages, or a phone call could be a lot better and less confusing to everyone concerned. Plus, you can direct the messages at just those who really need to know. For instance, immediate family and close friends. Not everyone needs to know all the intimate details. Even better would be to meet your friend for a face-to-face meeting. I’m sure not everyone has time, but a quick meeting to catch up could be very appreciated. By the way, you might like this article: Yes–Why Not Call Your Friends on the Telephone?
Think of Your Audience
If you have too much drama in your life, your potential clients might look for someone who doesn’t have so much drama. After all, they wouldn’t want that drama to affect your work for them, right? So even if there is drama, it could be better not to dote on the drama. Also, doesn’t it seem that those who dwell on drama get more of it? Or is that just me? And you might like How to Use Gratitude Marketing to Empower Your Social Media.
What do you think? Is it better to share more or less? Let me know in the comments! Thank you.
Pinterest: Top Ten Tasks (and Power Tips)
Top Ten Pinterest Tasks
You may have seen my previous post on Top Ten Twitter Terms. Here are the first tasks you should tackle on Pinterest. If you’re more advanced, skip to the “Power Tips.”
Set Up Your Profile
Fill out your profile. Go to “Settings” on the top right, scroll to Profile, upload your picture or avatar and fill out the “About You.” Connect your Facebook, Twitter, etc. You can invite friends at the top left of your home page. If you plan to sell on Pinterest, you’ll need to set up a business account.
Power Tip: Use Location for a short descriptive sentence, if you prefer. Make sure to click “save settings.”
Create Boards
Boards are how you organize pins on Pinterest. Choose an easy name for your boards—nothing fancy. For instance, Blogs, not Words Words Words, will be found easier. Create a category and description for each board. And, since Pinterest is a visual medium, make sure your board covers are pretty!
Power Tip: Create at least 5 boards of 5 pins each before you start following anyone. People want to know what your pins are like, and what your interests are before they’ll follow you.
Add Pins
A pin contains an image and description. Upload an image from your computer using the red plus icon at the top right of your Pinterest account, or use the Pinterest browser button, available from Pinterest.
Power Tip: Fill out each pin’s description completely. If you’re repinning, change the description to make it yours. Think about how people would search for that pin. For instance, if you’re pinning a watercolor painting, you could use the words, water color, painting, and art. You might also add the dominant colors and the topic, since people sometimes search that way.
Find Others to Follow
Pinterest is visual, so make your boards pretty!
Click on the icon–which turns red when you hover over it–in the top left corner and you’ll see all kinds of categories. Explore your interests and find boards and pinners to follow.
Power Tip: You can follow a single board or an account. If you don’t like one or two boards, follow all, then unfollow the boards you don’t enjoy.
Repin
When you find a pin, either through search, or through discovery in your own stream, you can repin it. When you repin it, change the comment.
Power Tip: Click all the way through a pin to discover where the pin leads. If a pin leads nowhere or to spam, don’t repin. You can report spam and Pinterest is pretty good at removing it.
Like
A “like” is not as strong as a repin. You might “like” a pin rather than comment, if it’s outside your niche.
Comment
People rarely comment on Pinterest. It’s a very powerful way to be noticed by influencers.
Power Tip: If you want to be noticed, comment. You can ask questions or tag others in a comment, too.
Give Credit
Pinterest usually gives credit to the destination of the original pin. Authors and artists also appreciate getting credit.
Power Tip: If you don’t know whose image you’re repinning, you could ask your followers right in the comment of the pin, such as “Does anyone know whose image this is or have any more information?”
Know Your Audience
As with all other social media platforms, know what people are looking for. For instance, if you’re a spa owner you might also pin tips on relaxation, how to get good sleep, smoothie recipes, etc.
Power Tip:After awhile, you’ll get a feel for what your audience likes by what gets repinned. Repin more of the popular content.
Clean Up Boards
Occasionally, you can delete pins that don’t get much traffic.
Power Tip: At first, none of your pins may get much traffic. If you believe something will get traffic (but wasn’t seen the first time you pinned it), you can repin it to the top of the same board, and delete the one further down.
Did I Forget Anything?
Please let me know in the comments! Thanks!