How to Boost Your Self-Esteem!

Manel Torralba ©2017

Manel Torralba ©2017

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How do you define self-esteem? And do you depend on other people to develop your self-esteem, or is self-esteem something you develop in the privacy of your own quarantined home? Whichever way you define it, there are definitely ways to develop your self-esteem. Here are some ways that have worked for me.

Derek Bridges © 2008

Derek Bridges © 2008

 

We’re Not Worthy

Surely everyone of a certain age remembers the “we’re not worthy” guys from Wayne’s World. And we’ve all felt that way when suddenly being recognized by someone we deem worthy. Do you ever feel unworthy of the kudos coming your way? And almost as if, as Groucho Marx said, “I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member.”

Alan Levine ©2011

Alan Levine ©2011

Imposter Syndrome

Everyone, me included, sometimes feels like an imposter. As though everyone else knows what they’re doing, but maybe you don’t. But there are ways around it.

Mário Simoes ©2016

Mário Simoes ©2016

Act As If

Acting as if you’re already successful can really help to avoid imposter syndrome. Pretending you’re already there to the top of your personal Mount Everest can ease some of that worry. Or even imitating or channeling one of your much-loved heroes. For instance, when I have to do something difficult I often channel my brother.

Nenad Stojkovic ©2017

Nenad Stojkovic ©2017

 

Writing as a Way to Boost Your Self-Esteem

Now you might not have thought about writing as a way to boost your self-esteem, but writing can help your self-esteem in several ways. For one thing, writing helps clarify your ideas and that always helps. For another, you can write a series of articles, scoop them up together and turn them into a book. Or start a podcast, for that matter.

 

 

 

 

 

How to Ensure Your Tweetstream Tells a Good Story

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When you’re trying to decide whether to follow someone, or follow someone back on Twitter, how do you do it? Do you look at that person’s timeline to try to decide? Or do you have a conversation first? Here are some ways to make your own Twitter stream look better so others might want to follow you.

Don’t retweet posts with huge lists of people

Recently, people have restarted that Friday Follow tradition. Remember the one that almost made you leave Twitter? When Friday Follow first started, it was fun. That was many years ago. Then, more recently, Friday Follow became huge lists of as many accounts as people could squish into one tweet. Don’t retweet these if you can help it. It looks messy and does nothing for those you already follow. If people see too many of these tweets in your timeline, they’ll either 1. not want to follow you, or 2. unfollow you if they’re already following you. By the way, here are some Friday Follow best practices from the vault (2013!): Follow Friday: 8 Best Practices.

Read the stuff you retweet

Make sure the links you’re going to retweet really work. I admit I’ve been guilty of retweeting without reading–and it’s not a good idea. Occasionally, the links don’t work. Also, if you’re sending your friends to a site with a paywall or that’s spammy or filled with tons of popups, wouldn’t you want to warn them? Seems like a good idea to me! If you’ve tried to retweet something without reading it lately, Twitter is now suggesting that you read before retweeting! Apparently, it worked, because “Twitter says the prompts worked, and users opened articles before sharing them 40% more often than they did without the nudge.”

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Have conversations!

Engagement is definitely the gold standard of social media. So if you’re sharing something, say something about it. Talk to people. Ask questions. Say hello. Engage in tweetchats (even if you can only add a comment or two, it’s better than nothing. For more about engagement, you may like: For Better Social Media Results, Focus on Engagement. Still have questions? Talk to me on Twitter!

Still here?

If you’re still reading, thank you! I haven’t been blogging since August, but I’m back and I appreciate your reading all the way to the end!

 

You Need to Know about Pinterest’s Powerful New Feature, Story Pins

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What Are Story Pins?

Story pins let you put together up to 20 pages of images and texts in one pin. If you’re inside Pinterest, you can create story pins on the top left corner of your screen (see the screen shot below). Once you’ve created a story pin, there will be a number there, too, to indicate how many pages or images exist in the story pin.

You Need a Pinterest Business Account

If you’re a business and don’t have a business account on Pinterest, you need to do that. Here’s why: Ten Arguments for a Pinterest Business Account. Seriously, do that first. I’ll wait. Bottom line–you need analytics so you can measure your results on Pinterest. Otherwise, you may be wasting your time. One tip for you? Publish in the evening, at around 6:30 pm, for the best results.

Three Types of Story Pins

Currently, there are three types of story pins: Recipes
, DIY, and guides. Here’s an example of a recipe pin: https://www.pinterest.com/pin/128985976816932426/ (You may need to log into Pinterest to see it, but there’s cake there.)

Who Can Use Story Pins?

Anyone who uses stories can use a story pin! That should probably be all of us. Stories make time stand still, and keep your followers engaged. And they’re fun!

Where Do I Sign up for Story Pins?

If story pins are not yet available where you are, you can request access: Story Pin Request Form. They should be available shortly for everyone. It takes 5-7 days to gain access if you request it.

How Do I Get Started?

Here’s a short guide, straight from the horse’s mouth, Pinterest. Create Story Pins. Although story pins might seem complicated, they’re easy and fun. The important thing is to get started! You can edit story pins, so there’s that.

When Should I Use a Story Pin Rather than a Regular Pin?

Recipes are good for story pins. And, as suggested by Pinterest, anything that requires multiple steps and that you can be illustrate with pictures is a good idea. So a simple craft would make a good story pin. Or something like how to paint a wall yourself. You can put up multiple videos, or even use a video as the cover for your story pin.

React to a Story Pin with Emojis

You can react to a story pin with five different emojis! They are: Good idea, love, thanks, wow, and haha. Pay attention to the number of repins, impressions, and closeups for this pin (above), after just one day. Kind of cool, right?

What Else?

After you’ve published a Story Pin, you can edit the public note, the board you published it to, topic tags, and details. You can also delete an existing page, add a new page, or reorder existing pages. How many times have you published something (say a tweet), and wanted to edit it but can’t? You have to delete it and start over! UGH! Anyway, if you try story pins let me know!

 

 

 

#Digiblogchat Questions August 11, 2020

The topic for August 11, 2020 is how Emotional Intelligence can help you build stronger relationships with others during challenging times (questions by @TrippBraden ). Emotional intelligence can help you connect on a deeper level with others. How do you know if you’re connecting with others if you are also being distracted? Here are a Braden’s top ten questions to help you evaluate where you are and help you get to where you want to be. They will help you remain centered and mindful of the emotions you and the other people in your life might be feeling. Join us on Twitter for #digiblogchat every Tuesday at 1:00 p.m. Pacific Time!

Q1. What does emotional intelligence mean to you?

Q2. What are your strengths when dealing with emotional situations?

Q3. How does your mood impact how you make decisions?

Q4. Are you good at understanding others’ emotions? Are you good at reading others emotions accurately?

Q5. What do you do when you feel overwhelmed?

Q6. How do you respond to criticism? Do you always go with your first response?

Q7. How important is it to be authentic when dealing with others about your emotions?

Q8. Why is it important to forgive and forget when dealing with many emotional situations?

Q9. How do you deal with your commitments to others? What about to yourself?

Q10. Have you ever considered how helping others helps meet your emotional needs?

Bonus Question: What one thing will you act on that you learned today?

10 Best Ways to Manage Time on Social Media

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Time is precious, and yet we all tend to waste it (including myself here). Time management can be a tricky business, especially when you’re using social media. Here are some things I’ve learned from ten years managing social media for myself and others.

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Use a Timer

A good timer, such as Noko (the one I use) helps you see in graphic format exactly where your time is going. If you don’t have the money for a professional timer or app, any timer will help. I used to use an egg timer, and that worked fine. Something about the ticking really did help. If you’re short on time, you might like: What if you only have 30 minutes for social media?

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Plan Each Day

Before you start working, have a plan. Now, you may not follow the plan, but at least you have a structure to fall back onto when you think “now what was I supposed to be doing?” Because you will forget and become distracted without a plan. My planning takes roughly 5-7 minutes to do, either the night before or the day of. A social media content calendar is a very good idea, by the way. You can use Excel or you can use a social media content calendar, such as this one from Later.

Prioritize

Once you’ve written down everything you have to do, prioritize. You probably have 5-7 things you must do each day. Decide which items are necessities. Then decide which you’ll do first, second, third, etc.

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Have a Reason

Why are you on Twitter? What are you doing on Facebook? Stick to your reason, post, and have a definite period of time you plan to be there. Then get out before you get sucked in! Because you will get sucked in…there are a million billion videos of cute kittens just waiting for you.

Maintain Focus

Stay focused on your purpose for being on social media. Are you there to comment on others’ posts? Then do that? Are you there to check on your own posts? Do that and (again) get out!

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Delegate

If you get distracted easily, you might want someone else to do your social media for you. Find someone who can post, or who can engage on your behalf. Need more time? You might want to Outsource Your Social Media.

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Keep it Quiet

Most people thrive with a quiet environment, especially if you tend to get sensory overload from being online.

Use White Noise

A white noise generator can also work if the sound of waves or wind help you. I like one that has birds (quietly) chirping, along with a few frogs.

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Learn to Say No

Saying no is perhaps the most important tactic of all. Think of a few different ways to say no. In the article 7 Tips for Saying No Effectively, Joseph Albert suggests being assertive and courteous: “You might say, “I’m sorry I can’t right now but will let you know when and if I can.” This approach is polite, and puts you in a position of power by changing the dynamic.” Isn’t that wonderful? He also suggests standing firm when pushed, which leads me to the next suggestion…

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Be Ruthless

Guard your time like a dragon guards its lair. It’s your life and your business, after all! Who else is going to guard it?

 

 

 

#Digiblogchat questions August 4, 2020

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The topic for August 4, 2020 is the use of Artificial Intelligence in Marketing and Social Media with @interprosepr. Join us on Twitter for #digiblogchat every Tuesday at 1:00 p.m. Pacific Time!

Q1. What are some examples of where AI can be found in marketing today?

Q2. Does Artificial Intelligence (AI) even have a place in marketing? If so, where?

Q3. Why should marketers care about AI?

Q4. How is AI impacting the marketing landscape in general?

Q5. What aspects of day-to-day marketing operations can AI be applied to?

Q6. Wait…AI can be used for copywriting?

Q7. Why should copywriters be worried about being replaced by AI?

Q8. What kinds of technical or resource challenges are there to AI’s use in marketing?

Q9. Are there any ethics, privacy, or security issues when implementing AI in marketing?

Q10. Where do you see AI in marketing going in the future?

This is What Good Quarantine Cooking Looks Like

White Chocolate and Cheese Parfait by Warren Laine-Naida

Our topic for #Digiblogchat on Twitter for July 21, 2020 was Quarantine Cooking. We had so many interesting replies and recipes that I thought a summary might be nice. Join us on Twitter for #digiblogchat every Tuesday at 1:00 p.m. Pacific Time! Here are the questions, followed by some of the answers.

Q1. What’s the best dish or cocktail you’ve created during quarantine?

Justine Pretorious (@jpretorious) suggested A1) Watermelon Frozen Daiquiri! 3 ingredients: frozen watermelon, lime juice, and rum! 
Interprose (@interprosepr) said A1. So, our team has been #WFH-based for 20+ years. One key to maintaining company culture is sharing, including recipes. We’ve seen lots of yummies from our team, including one person who changed his @zoom_us background to a photo of bourguignon he’d made recently.

Q2. What were some strange ingredient substitutions you’ve made? 

Randy Clark (@RandyLyleClark) said A2 We’ve been using plant based meat substitutes — made sloppy joes last night.
 
Larry (@LazBlazter) said A2. No Muscovado sugar so had to improvise for the caramelisation element. Opted for dates and icing sugar, neighbours love it and want more. Did I write it down anywhere? Nope. 

Q3. What recipes or cooking ideas didn’t work out? 

Beth (@AdventureGlass) said A3. Vegan cheese. . . . . . . there is a good vegan queso but vegan queso Mac and cheese. . . um no 
Then there’s this: A3. Heard from one @Interprosepr team member about trying a new recipe that was more complex than usual. It was an soba noodle dish. Like the noodles that didn’t turn out, her family’s reaction was rather limp. Love that she tried something new. #DigiBlogChat #CallGrubHub

Chinese Chicken Salad

Q4. Do you have any recipe that you’d like to share? 

Justine (@jpretorious) shared this recipe with NO stale fried noodles: A4) Chinese chicken salad nomnompaleo.com/chinese-chicke #DigiBlogChat

 

 

 

A4: @Omneya_Nabil shared her favourite 2-minute snack recipe.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Q5. How often do you get take-out food (or do you only cook at home)? 

Sandy Connoly (@sandyconnoly) explained A5. Not often, but we are tonight @Applebees

And Maricar (@MaricarJagger) said A5. It’s been a time to work on some home cooking and to use fish from our fish market that stayed open.

White Chocolate and Cheese Parfait by Warren Laine-Naida

Q6. What have you baked lately? 

Chef Warren Laine-Naida (@WarrenLNaida) shared his recipe for White Chocolate and Cheese Parfait. (This looks luscious!)

Beth (@AdventureGlass) said A6. no No baking when it’s so hot outside. 

And Justine Pretorious (@jpretorious) mentioned A6) Banana Bread with Blackberries and the rasberry oatmeal bars. My hubby loves his pastries! 

Poppyseed cake

Not to be outdone, @maricarjagger baked this poppyseed cake for a friend. It turned out very well, delicious especially with some raspberry coulis (another secret weapon in my cooking arsenal)

Q7. What’s the simplest meal you’ve made? 

Justine Pretorious (@jpretorious) made A7) Breakfast tostadas! #DigiBlogChat

Q8. Any tips for making fresh produce last longer? 

Larry (@LazBlazter) said A8. Grow your own if possible and pick it when you are about to eat. 

While @Omneya_Nabil  said A8: I use basil leaves in almost everything I cook. I buy them fresh and freeze them in an ice cube tray with olive oil.
Justine (@jpretorious) said A8) Keep the bananas separate from the other fruit, refrigerate tomatoes/potatoes, and add a paper towel on top of mushrooms if you buy them pre-sliced. 

Roast Chicken with Lemon Butter and Garlic

Q9. What’s your laugh-out-loud go-to meal and why? 

Omneya @Omneya_Nabil  said A9: My specialty roast chicken with lemon butter and garlic. It’s the first dish I ever cooked with my roommates at my college dorms. We always take photos and send them to each other when we cook this dish.

Justine said A9) Frozen cauliflower pizza because it only takes 12 minutes :)

Pampered Chef Chopper

Q10. What’s your favorite, most-used kitchen appliance? 

Beth (@AdventureGlass) said A10. Pampered Chef Chopper – love that thing #digiblogchat

And several people mentioned that their coffee maker was their favorite! There was also a vote for a refrigerator.

You Can Do What You Want If Quality Isn’t An Issue!

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When clients want to overshare from their personal lives on something that has nothing to do with their target audience, I wonder if quality is an issue. Sometimes a cat photo is the perfect thing, sometimes not. And we don’t always want to hear the details of every surgery. Do we? I don’t. Maybe you don’t, either.

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Who’s Your Audience?

The only way to really tell if what you’re doing works or not is by seeing how your audience responds. Sometimes sharing inappropriate stuff can be helpful. We’re all human, after all. But when every image is out of focus and of bad quality? When every other tweet is one where you’re asking people to buy sunglasses at a *super* discount? How is that anything other than noise? You might like this article about oversharing: What Happens to Your Audience When You Overshare. (Can you tell this isn’t my first rant on this topic?)

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Social Media Can Be Noisy

Of course, the Interwebs is a noisy place. We’ve all seen it getting noisier and noisier. But do you turn away when there’s too much of it? I think a lot of people do. All the political screaming is getting worse. And with November around the corner, will the noise lessen? Probably not. I like this article about creating content that cuts through the noise, from Forbes. Yes, it’s more than two years old, and still relevant. Anyway, like others, I doubt that sharing on social media ever changes someone’s mind. Has it ever changed yours?

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Pay to Play

If you really need to get your (high quality) content out to an audience, you might consider pay to play. It’s one way to ensure that people really do see your message. Of course, check that you are really targeting the correct audience, edit your article, and make sure it’s something your audience wants to see.

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If Quality Isn’t An Issue?

If quality isn’t an issue, then posting any old thing is just perfect. A picture of an old rotten lemon? Perfect! Out-of-focus pix of the neighbor’s back fence? Why not? But it isn’t 2001 anymore, and there’s a lot more competition online to get it right. People really do want quality. And you might like this article: What Happened to Quality Versus Quantity on Social Media?

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What if Quality IS An Issue?

You can stand out from the crowd by posting things of higher quality, rather than lots of posts of lower quality. Maybe consider posting less, but of higher quality. Some brands only post 2-3 tweets a week and maybe post only once on Facebook each week. Could that be you? Or do you feel obligated to keep up with the Jones?

 

#Digiblogchat questions July 21, 2020

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The topic for July 21, 2020 is Quarantine Cooking. Join us on Twitter for #digiblogchat every Tuesday at 1:00 p.m. Pacific Time!

Q1. What’s the best dish or cocktail you’ve created during quarantine?

Q2. What were some strange ingredient substitutions you’ve made? 

Q3. What recipes or cooking ideas didn’t work out? 

Q4. Do you have any recipe that you’d like to share? 

Q5. How often do you get take-out food (or do you only cook at home)? 

Q6. What have you baked lately? 

Q7. What’s the simplest meal you’ve made? 

Q8. Any tips for making fresh produce last longer? 

Q9. What’s your laugh-out-loud go-to meal and why? 

Q10. What’s your favorite, most-used kitchen appliance? 

TweetChats: Your Complete Guide, Part Two

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Tweetchats, Part Two: How to Get Started

Want to know more about Tweetchats? I’ve been writing a longish guide, with part one below.

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When Hosting Tweetchats, A Shorter Name is Better

Now you’re ready to pick a name for your tweetchat! Here’s where brainstorming comes in. Remember that every character you use takes away from the 280 characters that you have as your basic real estate. And don’t forget your user name also eats up some of those characters. And so does your hashtag!

Register Your Hashtag

Register Your Hashtag

Register Your Tweetchat’s Hashtag

Before you decide on a name for your tweetchat, do a search on Twitter.  Ensure that no one else is using the name, in particular for something unsavory. Once you’ve picked a name, you can register your hashtag on Twubs or hashtag.org. Here is a complete guide to creating a hashtag. As you can see, the hashtag for my tweetchat, #Digiblogchat, has already been registered (by me!). Although this doesn’t have any legal weight, it does add legitimacy to your hashtag.

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Decide If You Want a Partner or Partners

It’s much easier to have a tweetchat if you have a partner or two. If you go on vacation they can fill in. If you have a holiday, they can help out. And if you’re sick, that’s another reason to have a partner to help out. My partner, Larry (@lazblazter on Twitter), is in the U.K., and his holiday schedule isn’t the same as ours in the U.S. So occasionally he’ll lead the chat while I’m on vacation and vice-versa. If you choose a partner, make sure they have the same interests as you. For instance, on #Digiblogchat, we talk about all things digital, blogging, plus a host of other topics that are crowdsourced. Does your partner have the same agenda as you? Also, your partner will probably have different followers on Twitter and can promote the chat in different timezones with varying people, too. I highly recommend having a partner.

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Pick a Time and Day

This can be a little tricky if your partner is far away. You want a time that’s convenient but doesn’t interfere with work schedules. Mondays and Fridays are often rolled into holidays for three-day weekends, so for #Digiblogchat we chose Tuesday. Besides, Tuesday is the best day of the work week! It’s not Monday (Ugh! Monday!) and it’s not Friday (is work over yet?). That’s just me, though. You may have your own reasons for scheduling your chat on a Monday or a Friday.

Another tricky thing is the time change. Twice a year Pacific Time is out of sync with BST, and that can mean a headache. Our 1:00 pm Pacific Time slot is good because I can get a bunch of work done in the morning, and it’s after Larry’s job is done, since it’s after dinner in the U.K.

Social Media Examiner suggests that you “Use a tool like Followerwonk to figure out when your followers are most active, so you’ll know the best time to host your chat.” Here are their other suggestions: How to Create a Twitter Chat: 4 Suggestions.

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More Parts Planned

If there’s something specific you’d like to see addressed, let me know! For now, though, I’m planning the following:

  • Part Three: Promoting Your Tweetchat
  • Part Four: Weekly Chores
  • Part Five Measuring Your Success

 

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