Recently, I had a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad thing happen. When you work in the social media realm, people expect certain things. They expect you to share. And yet, although some of my best friends knew about the terrible event, I did not share it widely.
Connection Does Not Always Equal Friendship
Being “friends” on Facebook does not mean that someone is truly friends, despite the saying that a stranger is just a friend you haven’t met. If you are squinting at someone’s image, wondering where you met them (or if you met them at all), maybe it’s time to cut them loose if Facebook is your “safe place.”
Being a Private Person
Are you a private person? Now, I’m not necessarily talking about being an introvert because that’s different. But are you private in your communications online? Would you be ready to share something and then have a relative stranger come up and say “oh, hey, I heard that you fell off the roof while on vacation!” If not, then you might consider not sharing that tidbit, although it’s easy to forget that 100s or 1000s of people could potentially see what you post.
How to Decide What to Share
Here are a few questions you could ask yourself before you share something:
- Will this hurt me later?
- Will this expose a friend?
- Will sharing this get back to the person I’m sharing about?
- Could this have any negative impacts?
Where to Share
Certain people have places that are more private than others on social media. For instance, I consider Twitter to be the most filled with strangers of all of my platforms. Yours could be Facebook. Or LinkedIn. At any rate, there’s a hierarchy of places for all of us. I might share something in a closed Facebook group before I share it on Twitter.
Some would say that you could share more safely on Twitter, since it doesn’t ask you to share your own or your friends’ information as much. See Facebook vs Twittter: Privacy Issues.
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of Social Sharing
There are many good aspects of sharing. For instance, you could share a picture that you want all your friends to see. It beats emailing it to everyone! And you can create an album on Facebook or a secret board on Pinterest for those images. By the way, here are Ten Ways to Be Social, from the archive.
The Bad and the Ugly
There are also many, many ways to fail on social media. For instance:
- Ten Ways to Fail on the Biggest Social Media Platforms: LinkedIn
- Ten Ways to Fail on the Biggest Social Media Platforms: Pinterest
- Ten Ways to Fail on the Biggest Social Media Platforms: Facebook
What’s Something You’d Never Share?
I promise not to tell! Leave me a comment. Thank you.